Monday, July 10, 2017
“Be a little kinder than you have to.” ― E. Lockhart
I have a gift for you today. Something that won’t cost you any money but will almost certainly make your life better, will improve your marital relationship, will improve your family life, and will lower your blood pressure while relieving stress. If you don’t need this gift, I’ll bet you know someone who does. There are lots of people in this world who always have to be right. It doesn’t matter what the issue, it can be as trivial as who left the light on, or as important as who started a war. Regardless of the issue, or the time, or the place, these people can never admit or accept that they made a mistake or did something wrong. Psychologists will tell us that each of these people most probably has a very low self image or an inferiority complex. It’s as if always being right is necessary for them to believe that they deserve a place on this planet. Now, it doesn’t take a genius to know that no one is always right or never makes mistakes or hurts other people’s feelings. It is how we deal with it that makes us what and who we are. With the advent of Google and Wikipedia, it is fairly easy to prove these people wrong. There are nanny cams and cell phone videos that can tell the truth no matter what the humans involve claim happened, but proving one of these people wrong is like beating up a drunk. What have you really proved? That the other person is human, or flawed, or less than they think of themselves? What have you won by hurting someone else? The magic is in learning how to love these people while you live and work with them.
In the 1992 Barcelona Olympics, Derek Redmond fell near the end of his race. His father came onto the track and helped him limp across the finish line (see picture at the right). Derek lost the race but won the hearts of all those who saw the race. More people remember his loss than the one who won that race. It’s not about winning, it’s about how you deal with the contest that we call life. That’s where my gift comes in. I encourage you to give it a one-week trial. If it doesn’t change your life in really meaningful ways, I will give you a complete refund of the nothing you gave me for the gift. Here it is (and it is based on solid, basic teachings of Christ) all tied up in just eight words you must learn to use whenever they are needed. The eight words: You might be right. I might be wrong. That’s it. Just start using those until they become second nature and your life and the lives of those around you will improve. I guarantee it. If you love others, use the words.