Wednesday, December 9, 2015
To love means loving the unlovable. To forgive means pardoning the unpardonable. Faith means believing the unbelievable. Hope means hoping when everything seems hopeless.” — G. K. Chesterton
Loving and forgiving as Christ commanded is not always easy, but it can and must be done. We didn’t fire Juliana but suspended her for a week. After taking to the Labour Board in Musoma, they suggested we give her new duties that “keep her outside of the house." If she refuses and quits, then we will see that she gets all the money coming to her from Social Security. We have spoken to the Catholic School Charlini is attending and assured them we will continue to pay for her fees and for special tutoring. Charlini’s great uncle (Juliana’s deceased sister’s husband) who is an Anglican priest and is aware of Juliana’s mental problems is coming today to try to plan a way to get Charlini into a boarding school without Juliana taking out her anger on the little girl. We will do whatever we have to, whatever we can, whatever we can afford, to get Charlini out of her bad home situation and into a boarding school. We cannot even begin to talk about adoption until Charlini has been doing well in a boarding school for several months and Juliana has received the huge sum waiting for her in Social Security which should calm her down somewhat. Juliana’s sister, Phelista was always a friend of ours and helped out here at the mission many times before her untimely death last year. Phelista’s husband, Father Steven, is an Anglican priest in Musoma and we helped pay his way through seminary. He is a good man and likes us very much as well as loving Charlini, so we have high hopes that together we can plan something that will have good results for both Charlini and Juliana. We don’t hate Juliana, but we are disappointed and hurt. It is the culture here not to say bad things about other people (didn’t stop Juliana from trashing us whenever she could) but it did prevent our other staff from telling us what Juliana was doing. They were all shocked that we kept her employed—but, of course, we were trying to do what was best for Charlini. Juliana’s eyes have been getting bad and her work only consisted of cleaning our bedroom and cooking one meal a day while Rachel did all of the rest of the work. When Rachel does the shopping, she is only gone for about a half an hour. Juliana was usually gone for two or three hours. We have since learned that she would use our money to buy food for herself, take it to her home and then come back here and say there was no change. She has a mentally ill sister, so there is a history of it in her family. We desperately want her bad behavior to be attributed to a mental problem and not an evil state of mind. There were always times when she was kind and thoughtful but others when we were afraid to even talk to her. Karen was always aware of her mood swings while I was pretty much oblivious. At any rate, we have talked to the school, got instructions on how to proceed from the Labour Board, and will be working with other family members to try to resolve things, so we are hopeful that our prayers have been heard and answered. Loving those who make themselves unlovable is always hard, but it is always what Christ has called us to do, and we will do it as best we can with His help. God loves all those who struggle to do His will as He knows it is never easy. We thank God for all those who stand with us and support us. We need you.