Sunday, March 13, 2011
If you are at all like me, at some time in your life you have been really angry at another person who hurt, humiliated, bullied, or just ignored you. I can carry hate and anger a really long time, even though it does all sorts of bad things to me. I found a simple to say but hard to do solution to this. One, forgive the other person. For some, this is all they need, but it is the most important. Without this, hate will rule you and you will never be free. Second, pray for the person every day at the beginning of the day and at the end (It is hard to stay mad at someone for whom you are praying). Third, protect yourself. Don't keep putting yourself in situations where this person can hurt you. For some, this means moving to a new town, for others, a new job, and for some just avoiding a particular circle of friends. It is one thing to forgive the saw for cutting off your finger, and quite another if you keep sticking your hand back into the blades. Fourth and finally, forgive yourself. Even if you are certain you did nothing and do not deserve what happened to you. You need to forgive yourself for giving hate and anger the power to ruin your day and maybe your life. Easy to say, hard to do, but it works every single time. It worked for me and it has worked for everyone I know who has actually done all four steps. Carrie Fisher once said that resentment was like you drinking the poison and waiting for the other person to die. Jesus said to love one another. Nuff said.